I'm disgusted. I am listening to Clubhouse, trying to understand the words coming out of my brothers' mouths. Rooms about gender roles, race, double standards, romantic partnership and Kevin Samuels rhetoric run 24/7. I am learning there isn't a Black cultural standard for partnership or co-parenthood qualities. Fine, but I have smoke for some of these niggas. I wasn't aware that there were so many Black men who would openly trash Black women for being whole.
Our tenacity, leadership skills, care for the collective, and keen attention to purpose are golden values, but they don't seem culturally valuable to our men. If those qualities are undesirable for them in partnership, then what is desirable? The alternative suggests that unworthy men are manipulating high-functioning birthing people (who they do not really desire) into relationships. It suggests we are being hoodwinked into co-parenthood with...sex. Irresponsible sex, in most cases. Each unwanted child introduces a minor barrier, at best- and generational setbacks, at worst- into the life of a purposed woman. Meanwhile the male counterparts become detached from their participation in the harm and demise of their family unit and collective community. If patriarchy were true, it would condemn these penis wielders as incompetent men and incompetent leaders
The men who trash Black womanhood and motherhood willingly impregnate us. Some have left us to figure out life and parenthood, unsupported. They leave a cultural mess behind them. It is like talking shit to the janitor who allowed you to throw your dripping trash bag atop their overflowing cart. They lift their eyes and scowl. Your contribution was not needed. That janitor could snap and punch you in the Adam's apple. Talk shit, get hit; it is a deserved consequence for your messiness. Messy Black fathers deserve a throat chop.
Younger generations need leaders and examples of positive relationship. It breaks my heart to see Black men undervalue Black women, but still get to smile in our faces and enter our bodies. How could a Black man not pursue longterm partnership with the hardworking, wise and selfless femme? How could a Black man not worship that revolutionary leadership, then present a humble and thoughtful semen offering?
Take that dick somewhere else.
I get why my sistas want to have beautiful chocolate children *long sigh* but our men can be so disrespectful to the ones who give life. Penis is amazing! When the man behind the penis lacks respect, vision and purpose, I don't understand why women would leave their cervix unprotected. *Bows head* I'll never date another covert misogynist. I'll never be hoodwinked into motherhood by one of these cultural scammers. I pray the same for other liberation-minded women.
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